What a man values in a woman not only shows his conception of women but also his conception of himself. Which is why I find it funny when men don’t like women who think. Clearly, they’re not thinkers themselves because if they were they’d not only value but require that trait in a partner. 






I’m about five of these listed above. I’m not sure if that makes me extra weird.

This post. Forget all the posts that try to lift your self esteem or show fluffy kittens because they supposedly will make you happy. THIS POST has made me happier than any other post that was meant to make me happy ever has.

I’m six of these.

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Question: My Pastor Doesn't Preach Deep Enough



Anonymous asked (edited for length):

I know you lovingly and jokingly ‘hate’ on reformed churches. I spent half my life in a reformed Church, but after moving states, I’ve been called to a somewhat more ‘neutral’ denomination … But I miss the deep theology and…

Yo, Pataki!



Yo Pataki is a re imagining of the Hey Arnold characters as young adults. The series (hypothetically) would center around a 26 year old Helga Pataki who is now a bartender works at the family owned business, Big Bob’s Cafe.




When Big…

Brainy is creepy

Why I Will Not March for Eric Garner





I absolutely, 100% disagree with this woman. Like, I’m BAFFLED that a black woman wrote this and published it.

We either aid each other in progressing forward as a black people, a black family, or we stand back and watch a house divided fall.

I just…..can’t fully process my sadness in writing this post. She makes excellent points about the hurt and abuse of the black woman, but I don’t understand what it has to do with not honoring a life taken and the injustice that still exist AGAINST our own people.

More later, when I’m able to fully grasp the enormity of my horror.

Although I do see where you may disagree with the writer, I have to say that I see many areas where I do agree with her, as one commentator said: “This post is dealing with a hard truth. You will not find that the majority will agree. She is not dismissing the tragedy of Black men, because that would be damn near insane, but what she is saying is that our brothers are not wielding the same kind of energy that we do when they are victims of injustice. Come on, look at Renisha McBride! I myself, a Black woman, can not spit names of Black women who have been victimized by white supremacy. You know why, because it rarely takes center stage.

That being said, yesterday my 10 year old sister (who looks older for her age— some people even think she’s older than me) and I were going to play basketball. I was on my cell but I kept hearing someone saying hello and I looked up and saw this guy— probably in her 30s aggressively trying to talk to her. I cursed him out so bad and told him her age and he didn’t care. Sorry but not sorry, they (at least some and the internet will have you think the majority) don’t really care about us (ironically in my MJ voice).

I feel you and I hear that, but.
So that means we should step back?
So the distance and space between increases?

If that’s the solution for some, hey. By all means.
I just couldn’t sleep at night.

I personally don’t disagree with the points in the post. I just think this is the wrong time… or maybe the wrong situation. A man just died and I don’t necessarily think that is the time to basically argue that Black women shouldn’t put their utmost concern into this.

That doesn’t help Eric Garner’s wife and his children. It doesn’t help his community where the NYPD is targeting Black people irregardless of gender.

It’s hard for me to swallow the fact that Black women’s issues aren’t considered as big of a deal as Black men’s while also dealing with the fact that we’re inextricably connected and so when we don’t address Black men’s issues that doesn’t help us as BW either.

So for me it doesn’t make sense to downplay an issue such as this even though people like Renisha McBride won’t receive the same attention. I just want increased visibility for ALL victims of brutality. That’s where my Black feminism leads me… not to retaliate so to speak and say “Black men you’re on your own” 

but it’s a complex and touchy issue for sure

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Just like people benefit from friends, certain plants help lend each other a hand (or leaf!), otherwise known as companion planting. This is a list of a few common companion plant pairings.

Carrots and Tomatoes

Planting carrots and tomatoes together produces large, flavourful red tomatoes, but…

I’m always listening. I swear.
Life is always screaming at me.
It’s so loud out here.
Bring me back home.
I’m following the quiet.

"Silent Prayer", j.l. (via xdopedupphoenix)

say that!

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Click here to find out why these questions help you.

This is so important!

I never know what to ask and end up looking like a fool cause I don’t have a question prepared.

Don’t be me.

Oooh yes these are good


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White couples that adopt non-white kids


If you’re getting mad at someone for adopting a parentless child and bringing that child into a loving home because their skin color doesn’t match then you need to take a good hard look at your prioritys, evaluate your life, and ask yourself how you sunk this fucking low.

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INFJ Confession #876


I dunno about anyone one else, but does anyone have a really bad problem getting out of bed…. I just wanna sit in my perfect little bed world and have my thoughts and my computer.

INFJ Confession #892


I have lots of friends that I can have a conversation with, a few that I can hang out with, one or two that I can open up to, but I really don’t have anyone I can just tell anything to. I really wish I had someone that would genuinely understand me.

And how hard is it to land even a minimum-wage job? This year, the Ivy League college admissions acceptance rate was 8.9%. Last year, when Walmart opened its first store in Washington, D.C., there were more than 23,000 applications for 600 jobs, which resulted in an acceptance rate of 2.6%, making the big box store about twice as selective as Harvard and five times as choosy as Cornell. Telling unemployed people to get off their couches (or out of the cars they live in or the shelters where they sleep) and get a job makes as much sense as telling them to go study at Harvard.

"Why Don’t the Unemployed Get Off Their Couches?" and Eight Other Critical Questions for Americans (via seriouslyamerica)

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